You were actually set up by the multi-billion-dollar beauty, fitness, and self-help industries to feel this way. Women have lost their sparkle for years and it’s not your fault that it happened to you. That’s how losing your sparkle happens, and its actually totally normal. You start dreading going to work, you hate on your body, and relationships that are supposed to bring connection and joy end up being stressful or unfulfilling because you are more focused on what could go wrong, than on what might actually be going right. You start feeling like an imposter, convince yourself that you are broken, decide that you can’t trust yourself, that everything you do is going to turn out wrong – so why bother trying – and life slowly ceases to be fun. This kind of a self-judgment spiral causes you to lose confidence in yourselves and your abilities. Because none of those actions produce the results you desire, what happens? That’s right – you internalize this so-called failure as being your fault, and pretty soon you are lying in bed, obsessing over every mistake you have made for the last 30 years. Because it’s psychologically impossible to think rationally in a state of fight, flight, or freeze, you will end up either collapsing into paralysis (freeze), spinning up into haphazard action, (fight) or drinking wine and binge watching Netflix (flight). People pleasing, over-functioning and trying to “fix” what’s wrong, or spiraling into anxiety or negativity. Living in a state of fight, flight, or freeze moves you into default behavior mode, meaning that you slide straight into your worst habits and behaviors. It moves you into a state of fight, flight, or freeze and you experience fear, anxiety, or confusion over what to do next. It doesn’t matter if it’s the state of the world, some “event”, like a divorce, job loss, or empty nesting, or the cumulative buildup of disappointments from the last 20 years – it manifests the same way. Have you lost your sparkle? Losing your sparkle means feeling disconnected from yourself, unfulfilled by relationships or events that are supposed to bring you joy, and lacking the enthusiasm and motivation to do something about your body, jobs, or whatever it is that’s bugging you at the moment.
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesCategories |